What is it about a bad boy that can get even the savviest woman’s pulse racing? There’s no doubting the charm of a sweet-talking smoothie. The dictionary definition suggests a charmer has the power to both arouse love or admiration and to influence as if by magic. So, perhaps it’s best to just surrender to the seduction considering we’re powerless to resist the advances anyway?
Often though, women can be drawn to the challenge presented by a charmer and they conceal a secret desire to be the one to change him, a one-woman crusade to make him relinquish his womanising ways. Of course, many men capable of caddish behaviour do change along the way and particularly so once they’ve met the woman of their dreams. Yet it’s always advisable to be aware of the signs of a serial seducer. Forearmed means you just might not be disarmed quite so readily.
If you’re dating such a dreamboat there may be a few tell-tale triggers that make you feel a little uneasy as to the direction in which the liaison is leading you. He’ll probably tell you all about his family and friends, but chances are you’ll be unlikely to meet any of them if he’s incapable of committing to you. There’ll be a dearth of double-dating with his closest friends and their female companions and although he may suggest he wants you to meet his nearest and dearest, it’s unlikely to happen and you’ll be kept separate from them.
His friends are also likely to be his top priority. Now while this is no bad thing, it may demonstrate that his mates provide him with the security that he isn’t seeking from a committed relationship with a woman.
If, irrespective of the amount and length of time you’ve spent together, the depth of the relationship remains paddling in the shallows then there’s every chance that’s as profound as it is going to get. It’s not necessarily a case of discussing picking out dinner sets together, but if the relationship isn’t functioning on a deeper level than the physical then that may be as good as it gets. Any attempts to make plans or move things forward may result in resistance or potentially the end of the relationship.
While it may feel worthwhile to persist with a procrastinating partner, bear in mind that sexual intimacy doesn’t necessarily indicate emotional intimacy. Go with your gut and if your instinct tells you he’s just not that into you, then that’s probably the case.
This is a Class B posting.